In a world that glorifies Instagram feeds full of group selfies and dinner dates with friends, choosing to spend time alone can feel taboo. Research and mental health experts challenge this belief and say that solitude is not only beneficial but essential.
From solo coffee dates to traveling alone, independent activities can be enriching. Many people don’t even consider trying these things as they are worried about how it might look to do things alone. Researchers Ratner and Hamilton found that “consumers who forego hedonic activities alone are missing out on opportunities for rewarding experiences.”
The benefits go further than just the experience. According to an article by Michigan State University, scheduling solitude in your life can enhance your emotional and social well-being. Time alone is linked to increased creativity, freedom, self-discovery, and even stronger personal relationships. This is because alone time allows us to hear our voice without the noise of the outside world.
But how can teens and young adults, especially, learn to feel comfortable being alone in a culture that often associates solitude with sadness?
Evolve therapist Ms. Gibson explains, “I think it’s important to start with understanding that being alone doesn’t mean anything is wrong.” She recommends starting small.“Go for a walk without your phone or headphones. Journal for ten minutes. Do something just for you—not for likes or validation.”
The awkwardness will fade over time, and what is left is a stronger, more grounded version of yourself.
The key is learning to distinguish between loneliness and healthy solitude. “Loneliness is going to feel very heavy. We feel disconnected and isolated,” Ms. Gibson says. “But healthy solitude is peaceful and restorative. It’s relaxing and fulfilling.”
Solitude is necessary because we tend to forget about the relationship we have with ourselves. Alone time will give us the space we need to get curious and enjoy our own company.
The next time you hesitate before booking a workout class by yourself or skipping a group hangout with your friends, consider changing your perspective. You might discover that being alone is the best way to truly meet and understand yourself.
